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Faith
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Did you know you are Super Human?
08 Jan 2012 by Rod Smith / 1 Comment
Five super-human powers we all possess, but some ignore
Power 1: Self Definition (day one)
Every one of us has the ability to let the world know exactly we are and exactly who we are not.
This is the power of Self Definition.
It is the capacity to be involved in the development of your own environment, relationships, and ambitions.
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Marrying, with children?
06 Dec 2011 by Rod Smith / No Comments
The power of a second marriage, following a divorce or a death of a spouse, should not be underestimated in its power to dislodge or upset children. Even when the children appear to be in full agreement of what is happening, even if they have been thoroughly informed about the intentions and the events to come, the adults will be wise to appreciate that adjustments do not come easy.
Living between two biological parents (in the instance of a divorce) can be more difficult than living in two homes. Having two bedrooms in two different places can be unseating, while trying to
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The currency of an adult committed relationship
06 Nov 2011 by Rod Smith / No Comments
Trust. Kindness. Listening. Shared adventures and challenges. Interest in, and support for individual pursuits. Enduring respect. Taking time (almost) every day to listen to each other. Focused interest and focused attention. Eye contact. Absolute confidentiality. Integrity. Truth. Laughter. Accountability. Praise. Recognition for things accomplished. Conversations. Planning holidays. Escaping routines to be together. Phone calls, text messages to keep each other updated about important and unimportant matters.
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Ten things to tell your children this weekend….
03 Nov 2011 by Rod Smith / No Comments
1. My mistakes do not have to become your mistakes.
2. Your success is up to you.
3. Honesty is more powerful than money but it is nice if you have both.
4. Chase no one for anything.
5. Apologize quickly when you know you are wrong.
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Do you love yourself in a healthy way?
24 Oct 2011 by Rod Smith / No Comments
Healthy self love underpins all authentic love.
The evidence of a lack of healthy self love within any person will permeate all his or her relationships.
A person who does not love himself or herself in a healthy manner will:
1. Believe he or she can love another into desired change. (“I will love him out of his ….”)
2. Lose herself or himself to a relationship. (“There’s no ‘me’ anymore, I love her so much.”)
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Verbal log-jam
When I was a boy I’d endlessly practice the fluent delivery of my name but it seldom flowed easily from my lips. As if it was new news to me, adults pointed out my stutter. Perhaps they thought I was beginning, at that precise moment, for the first time in my life to spit from the mouth, twist at the neck, jig my head back and forth trying to expel some inane statement log-jammed between my gut and my throat.
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Life in our beloved 122
If the inside of a house (outside, too, I suppose) is a metaphor of the lives of the people who live in it – which is something I once read somewhere – gosh, are we in trouble. Our house is a mess.
I consistently clean it room by room, thinking often of the legend that the Golden Gate Bridge that says there’s some guy constantly painting it. I feel for him. While I am sure the view is wonderful I must believe that the poor guy whose doing it daily from one end to the other must find the wind and the weather quite a challenge.
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Being a white South African can come with complications
Being a white South African reared under Apartheid is no simple matter. It permeated everything for me. While I do not pretend to have been a political activist, I was always cognizant that my privileges, simply a result of being born white, were unmerited, and most unfair especially when enjoyed at the expense of others who were not. I think this unsettling truth (for I took advantage of my station in life) was somewhat of a companion to me from the age of about six or seven.
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Location, location – remembering winter in August
We live very close to our school and church, so close we can hear the school bell from our kitchen and the church bells in my bedroom.
Sometimes we walk to both and we don’t see the car for days.
I like it. I like not having to get in and out of the car. I like not having to negotiate traffic, something as synonymous with life in the USA as Disney, Fast Food, and the Fourth of July.
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Ready to adopt?
If you wait until you are ready to adopt a child you never will because you will never be ready. The baby, and only the baby, will make you ready. Reading the right books will be helpful, but “ready” magically comes upon you when a real baby is sleeping in your arms or crying in the middle of the night. If you are not ready to change diapers – and I always am amused at the big deal about this non-issue – being unprepared will last only as long as a clean diaper.
Life inside the Smith household
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