I am in a relationship with a woman who I believe is extremely obsessed with her 10 year old son.. Is there such a thing and is there a medical term for it..?

just some some examples, after 4 years no more affection towards me, the child decides where to go after school, has never friends over or will never stay with friends even for a play date (without her present), she will be at school 30 minutes prior to pick up, religiously, and he will not leave her side until bedtime.

I am not trying to point a finger, I just feel very frustrated. For her the subject is not approachable, because she views this as me judging her to ‘bad’ parenting.

HELP..

Marco.

This is a hard situation…I too have tried to not follow through with my divorce because of the terrible woman that will end up parenting my children..and because I know God hates divorce……me and my ex seperated for almost 3 years and he is on his 3rd woman. I have eventually filed for a divorce, mainly becuase like you say – I can’t show my kids I condone adultry.

I wish that you find the answer – but I believe we need to trust in God – that divorce is the best option – you have lived a hard life the last 8 years and I believe that means you have tried to make it work.

Talk to her and tell her how you fell if you want…but yes sadly maybe divorce if the only option….

Be glad your child is older – mine are both younger than 10 so he will be able to deal with it better I am sure..

Hugs and God bless

But what hurts is that he also comes in and out of my house like it is his…he will come over and sit and watch tv when he suppose to be “visiting” the kids….

How do i set the boundaries in terms of my space and not having to worry about his finances as we no longer married – btw he chose to be with someone else than stay and fix the marriage.

I have been reading your articles in The Mecury for along time now and finally needed to write to you.

I married my second real boyfriend 8 years ago, we dated for a few years and then moved in together and got married. The catch is from day 1 I knew he had a drinking problem, would drink and party so much and didn’t really respect me or my family? so why did I stay and still try to “make it work” ?

Long story short, we got married, had two kids and his behaviour never changed..hence the marriage coudln’t work….I can’t even try to lie – he has stayed the same, drinking and going out etc…..just now there has been an affair added to the mix….

But I must say even the affair wasn’t the breaking point, I still wanted to try, but then he jept on going back to the woman and I finally filed for a divroce.

Now, the divorce goes through soon, he has since moved onto a second woman and still drinks and parties, this time with her….

So why am I taking this so hard, knowing that he wasn’t right for me and I wouldn’t choose him again ??

Please help,

Thanks

This has probably been the loneliest 8 years of my life. It’s a position that earns little support from family or friends. Many people have abandoned me because I didn’t divorce my wife as they suggested. Even clergy have merely told me that divorce is not such a bad thing and that my fears over my child’s wellbeing are “probably groundless.”

In the past year, my wife has in all likelihood entered into another affair with someone who lives far from here. She presents him as an internet “friend” and I suspect that she is probably going to make the case that she needs him to visit her while she undergoes surgery in the spring.

At this point I have pretty much lost my bearings. If I do nothing, I’m likely to be a full time parent a little bit longer. If I make a case of it and refuse to allow him anywhere near the house, she will probably begin divorce proceedings.

All that is left of my marriage is my obligations–I receive nothing in return. I don’t ever want my son to believe I condoned adultery. On the other hand I don’t want my wife to marry the next deviate she finds on the internet and allow him to parent my child.

I have no idea what God would expect me to do here. I have been able to work things in my son’s favour for eight years, but I no longer know what the best choice is. Advice appreciated.

I have tumbled across your site, I believe not by chance! I have been married for 32 years now! We got married when both of us were very young. I was 16 and he was 20. We have 4 lovely adult children and 5 grandchildren. I have a massive problem being around my husband! He controls everything that has to do with finance in and around our home. I do not work and have no income at the moment. I use to do sewing until 3 years ago my hand started giving trouble and had to have a operation to have it fixed. I have not worked outside the home for the past 25 years and do not have any experience although I think I can do anything I put my mind to. Life just seems so difficult to live with someone that does not trust you to do the shopping etc. I am the handyman in our home and fixes anything that needs and do the cleaning as I don’t have any servants. He does give me a alowens after a lot of fighting about money. He treats me like a child sometimes as he often corrects me in front of our friends. He can’t do anything without me and always calls wherever he is for me to come and help with whatever he is busy with. He often calls me dumb, stupid because I can’t make any money. I on the other hand do not keep quiet and defend myself by being just as abusive as him. I always feel terrible and get this burning feeling on my stomach afterwards. I keep our home neat, do the garden etc. I don’t even feel like greeting him any longer and just don’t want to be close to him and yet I feel so ashamed because I feel like this. I have been thinking about divorce often because he says that he is never wrong I am mad and needs help! Please could you give me some advise:? I don’t know what to do! I have been praying about this and am a Christian and do not believe in divorce.

Thanks
Shireen