Comments on: What can I do to keep him? http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/11/02/what-can-i-do-to-keep-him/ Difficult Relationships - honest answers to relationship dilemmas Sun, 22 Jan 2012 11:30:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: tobeme http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/11/02/what-can-i-do-to-keep-him/#comment-2882 tobeme Thu, 06 Nov 2008 05:02:50 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=994#comment-2882 Sounds like he has moved on in his mind and the more you try to hold on the faster he will go. Time to let go and be your self and not what you think he wants you to be. Sounds like he has moved on in his mind and the more you try to hold on the faster he will go. Time to let go and be your self and not what you think he wants you to be.

]]> By: Rod E. Smith, MSMFT http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/11/02/what-can-i-do-to-keep-him/#comment-2881 Rod E. Smith, MSMFT Mon, 03 Nov 2008 23:47:31 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=994#comment-2881 Excellent, Lighthouse, thanks. You have said it with more grace than I was feeling at the time. Rod Smith (give me a link to your writing wherever it is) Excellent, Lighthouse, thanks. You have said it with more grace than I was feeling at the time.

Rod Smith

(give me a link to your writing wherever it is)

]]> By: Lighthouse http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/11/02/what-can-i-do-to-keep-him/#comment-2880 Lighthouse Mon, 03 Nov 2008 16:51:49 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=994#comment-2880 The response may have been a bit of a shock and somewhat painful to hear depending on your expectations, but following it will lead you away from the harm of setting yourself up for future disappointments. The good news is that you have the power to claim your right to a healthier partner, the bad news is that you can only claim that when you fulfil your responsibility to differentiate what is within your control and what is outwith your control, i.e. what is you, what is your responsibility and what is neither. Seems like a lot of work ? Yes ... but how is the alternative of letting your relationship define your feelings working out for you ? The response may have been a bit of a shock and somewhat painful to hear depending on your expectations, but following it will lead you away from the harm of setting yourself up for future disappointments.

The good news is that you have the power to claim your right to a healthier partner, the bad news is that you can only claim that when you fulfil your responsibility to differentiate what is within your control and what is outwith your control, i.e. what is you, what is your responsibility and what is neither.

Seems like a lot of work ?

Yes … but how is the alternative of letting your relationship define your feelings working out for you ?

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