Comments on: Help me through HER menopause…..! http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/08/10/help-me-through-her-menopause/ Difficult Relationships - honest answers to relationship dilemmas Sun, 22 Jan 2012 11:30:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Paul http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/08/10/help-me-through-her-menopause/#comment-4787 Paul Thu, 20 Oct 2011 19:20:10 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=786#comment-4787 okay. I need somewhere to release my frustration about my wife who is in the middle of menopause. Can you say IRRATIONAL? It is insane how she treats me. Is there something that she can take (like a happy pill) that will even out her impossible moods? Hello...she can go from sweet and loving to an absolute bitch in seconds. Help...HELP! okay. I need somewhere to release my frustration about my wife who is in the middle of menopause. Can you say IRRATIONAL? It is insane how she treats me. Is there something that she can take (like a happy pill) that will even out her impossible moods? Hello…she can go from sweet and loving to an absolute bitch in seconds. Help…HELP!

]]> By: Aldo http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/08/10/help-me-through-her-menopause/#comment-2825 Aldo Sat, 11 Sep 2010 06:36:23 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=786#comment-2825 I can relate to all of the stories I have read here, my wife is 43 years old and we have been married for 14 years now and the first 11 years everything was ok respect among us and in front of the kids, but for 3 years now she started getting in the midle everytime I try to correct the kids, some times they scream at me and I get mad and try to punish them but only to get into an argument with her because I punished them, I never winn not even one. Now last year she started accusing me of having an affair or at least flirting with a woman at my work, to the point of her insulting me an acusing me of going thru middle age crisis! I am 50 years old but I only live for my family and have no affairs with any woman. I really dont know what to do and now she does not even touch me or kiss me anymore. She now has the opinion that all men go thru middle age crisis but we want to deny it, WOW!! She says she does not have menopause. Now every time we have a chance to be along she goes out with her mother or brings her to the house, I told her why dont we take advantage when we are along to go out and try to solve things, but she starts telling me she does not want to fight so not to start looking for trouble so we end up fighting again, she says she feels very empty and bad because I have insulted her, but she was the one that started insulting me, she tells me I forget things ect... I see no way out but divorce but then she says that is not the way out, so I need to accept my mistakes. What have I done!! I tell her. Very confused.... I can relate to all of the stories I have read here, my wife is 43 years old and we have been married for 14 years now and the first 11 years everything was ok respect among us and in front of the kids, but for 3 years now she started getting in the midle everytime I try to correct the kids, some times they scream at me and I get mad and try to punish them but only to get into an argument with her because I punished them, I never winn not even one. Now last year she started accusing me of having an affair or at least flirting with a woman at my work, to the point of her insulting me an acusing me of going thru middle age crisis! I am 50 years old but I only live for my family and have no affairs with any woman. I really dont know what to do and now she does not even touch me or kiss me anymore. She now has the opinion that all men go thru middle age crisis but we want to deny it, WOW!! She says she does not have menopause. Now every time we have a chance to be along she goes out with her mother or brings her to the house, I told her why dont we take advantage when we are along to go out and try to solve things, but she starts telling me she does not want to fight so not to start looking for trouble so we end up fighting again, she says she feels very empty and bad because I have insulted her, but she was the one that started insulting me, she tells me I forget things ect… I see no way out but divorce but then she says that is not the way out, so I need to accept my mistakes. What have I done!! I tell her. Very confused….

]]> By: Aldo http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/08/10/help-me-through-her-menopause/#comment-2824 Aldo Sat, 11 Sep 2010 06:20:17 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=786#comment-2824 I can relate to all of the stories I have read here, my wife is 43 years old and we have been married for 14 years now and the first 11 years everything was ok and lot of respect among us and in front of the kids, but for 3 years now she started getting in the midle everytime I try to correct he kids, some times they scream at me and I get mad and try to punish them but only to get into an argument with her because I pusished them, I never winn not even one. Now last year she started accusing me of having an affair or at least flirting with a woman at my work, to the point of her insulting me an accusing me of going thru middle age crisis! I am 50 years old but I only live for my family and have no affairs with any woman. I really dont know what to do and now she does not even touch me or kiss me, nothing. WOW!! She says she does not have menopause. I can relate to all of the stories I have read here, my wife is 43 years old and we have been married for 14 years now and the first 11 years everything was ok and lot of respect among us and in front of the kids, but for 3 years now she started getting in the midle everytime I try to correct he kids, some times they scream at me and I get mad and try to punish them but only to get into an argument with her because I pusished them, I never winn not even one. Now last year she started accusing me of having an affair or at least flirting with a woman at my work, to the point of her insulting me an accusing me of going thru middle age crisis! I am 50 years old but I only live for my family and have no affairs with any woman. I really dont know what to do and now she does not even touch me or kiss me, nothing. WOW!! She says she does not have menopause.

]]> By: Jyay Jones http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/08/10/help-me-through-her-menopause/#comment-2823 Jyay Jones Sun, 29 Aug 2010 19:47:04 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=786#comment-2823 Dear Readers: Why do you think men and soceity kept women on a tight robe as far as not allowing them to vote or make major decisions during these hormonal inbalances. For thousands of years men and soceity took care of women and children and both supported this effort. Now women have no responciblity for their actions and the men that are not part of that relationship bewtween the wife and husband does not respect the man! This is Sick but the time has come now that everything in modern times has hit the wall! (Again, inclusion does not mean I agree -- I want readers to see what's out there.) Dear Readers:

Why do you think men and soceity kept women on a tight robe as far as not allowing them to vote or make major decisions during these hormonal inbalances. For thousands of years men and soceity took care of women and children and both supported this effort. Now women have no responciblity for their actions and the men that are not part of that relationship bewtween the wife and husband does not respect the man! This is Sick but the time has come now that everything in modern times has hit the wall!

(Again, inclusion does not mean I agree — I want readers to see what’s out there.)

]]> By: Shell http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/08/10/help-me-through-her-menopause/#comment-2822 Shell Thu, 05 Aug 2010 11:19:58 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=786#comment-2822 My mom is going through her menopause too. She has made everyone around her life miserable, mostly mine and my father's. She is always angry and violent towards my father and me. However my younger brother is spared as they are quite close. My father gets beaten up every now and then and she threatens to beat me up too. My father has learnt to redirect her anger towards me just to spare himself of grief. Whilst in their heated argument, he goes on to complain about me and suddenly she's on me like a barking dog, ready to bite! I just don't know what I have done. I am 26 yr woman, living with family because they asked me to move in 3 yrs ago in order to help them with their mortgage etc. Now my love life is in scrutiny because mom gets extremely jealous of my relationship. She keeps complaining to my dad and brother that I am sleeping around and I have become like whore, give sex for free and bf uses me and all sorts of nastiness. She has used such bitter words that I will never forget it, it haunts me ! I have only had 2 lovers in my life including my present one. While when she was young she has had few herself but it does not stop her from being nasty. Some relationships don't work so people have few lovers. As a result I hardly see my bf apart from once a week for coffee and meal and that too she has problems. She has changed my life and my psychology, I dread her so much that I do everything to avoid any flare ups. I do all the house chores, make her lunch, pick her up from work, do the dishes and many many more. But she is always angry with me and I just don't get it. I can not move out either because I have been made redundant from work also my visa to stay in UK was rejected and I am going through appeal process. I am fighting my own battle preparing with my case which is such a tough work as I am not a solicitor and keeping up with immigrations law that seem to change every now and then is so difficult. I am researching a lot and working very hard but my mom does not understand any of it. She makes my life completely miserable and my love life is in tatters as she is so resentful of me seeing my bf when he has done nothing. Many a times I felt like killing myself but I know that would be stupid. I just don't know what more do I have to give up, it feels like she wants to take all my happiness away even my relationship. I just don't know what she wants from me. My mom is going through her menopause too. She has made everyone around her life miserable, mostly mine and my father’s. She is always angry and violent towards my father and me. However my younger brother is spared as they are quite close. My father gets beaten up every now and then and she threatens to beat me up too. My father has learnt to redirect her anger towards me just to spare himself of grief. Whilst in their heated argument, he goes on to complain about me and suddenly she’s on me like a barking dog, ready to bite! I just don’t know what I have done. I am 26 yr woman, living with family because they asked me to move in 3 yrs ago in order to help them with their mortgage etc. Now my love life is in scrutiny because mom gets extremely jealous of my relationship. She keeps complaining to my dad and brother that I am sleeping around and I have become like whore, give sex for free and bf uses me and all sorts of nastiness. She has used such bitter words that I will never forget it, it haunts me ! I have only had 2 lovers in my life including my present one. While when she was young she has had few herself but it does not stop her from being nasty. Some relationships don’t work so people have few lovers. As a result I hardly see my bf apart from once a week for coffee and meal and that too she has problems. She has changed my life and my psychology, I dread her so much that I do everything to avoid any flare ups. I do all the house chores, make her lunch, pick her up from work, do the dishes and many many more. But she is always angry with me and I just don’t get it. I can not move out either because I have been made redundant from work also my visa to stay in UK was rejected and I am going through appeal process. I am fighting my own battle preparing with my case which is such a tough work as I am not a solicitor and keeping up with immigrations law that seem to change every now and then is so difficult. I am researching a lot and working very hard but my mom does not understand any of it. She makes my life completely miserable and my love life is in tatters as she is so resentful of me seeing my bf when he has done nothing. Many a times I felt like killing myself but I know that would be stupid. I just don’t know what more do I have to give up, it feels like she wants to take all my happiness away even my relationship. I just don’t know what she wants from me.

]]> By: chris gatzonis http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/08/10/help-me-through-her-menopause/#comment-2821 chris gatzonis Mon, 05 Jul 2010 06:51:33 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=786#comment-2821 I am going through a rough emotional battle trying to keep my sanity with my wife's aggression and erratic behaviour. I have to take the abuse and not retaliate as i can see that she is irrational and aggresive.The only problem is I cannot speak to her as she is very cold towards me and does her best to ignore me. I have been thinking of leaving her as I do not know how much more of this abuse I can handle,but then on the other side my wife is actually a very loving person and full of energy and fun to be around,I really miss this side of her. I just dont know how to approach her anymore as her actions are unpredictable and embarrasing to say the least I am going through a rough emotional battle trying to keep my sanity with my wife’s aggression and erratic behaviour.
I have to take the abuse and not retaliate as i can see that she is irrational and aggresive.The only problem is I cannot speak to her as she is very cold towards me and does her best to ignore me.
I have been thinking of leaving her as I do not know how much more of this abuse I can handle,but then on the other side my wife is actually a very loving person and full of energy and fun to be around,I really miss this side of her.
I just dont know how to approach her anymore as her actions are unpredictable and embarrasing to say the least

]]> By: Will http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/08/10/help-me-through-her-menopause/#comment-2820 Will Sun, 30 May 2010 23:35:33 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=786#comment-2820 God bless this website. My wife is gong nuts, this menapause thing is a curse on people and their should be an injection are somthing to take. I am going to die or somthing worse. Does this last for the rest of our lives? signed husband about to die (death by menapause). God bless this website. My wife is gong nuts, this menapause thing is a curse on people and their should be an injection are somthing to take. I am going to die or somthing worse. Does this last for the rest of our lives?

signed husband about to die (death by menapause).

]]> By: David http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/08/10/help-me-through-her-menopause/#comment-2819 David Sat, 20 Feb 2010 22:13:14 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=786#comment-2819 OMG! I am going through this right now! My wife says that she's sick of being number two and being a shadow. She does not know if she wants to be with me anymore and says that right now what she needs is space . . . to be left alone. I am heart-broken. We have had our problems in the past (me mostly) and up until the time I began reading this, I thought that I had failed in trying to reconcile our relationship. By the way, it doesn't help that her mother whom she adores is suffering from cancer that has come back and is currently stage IV. I never realized just how much I adore this woman. I need to know how to make it better for her. But I am lost. OMG! I am going through this right now! My wife says that she’s sick of being number two and being a shadow. She does not know if she wants to be with me anymore and says that right now what she needs is space . . . to be left alone. I am heart-broken. We have had our problems in the past (me mostly) and up until the time I began reading this, I thought that I had failed in trying to reconcile our relationship. By the way, it doesn’t help that her mother whom she adores is suffering from cancer that has come back and is currently stage IV. I never realized just how much I adore this woman. I need to know how to make it better for her. But I am lost.

]]> By: JR http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/08/10/help-me-through-her-menopause/#comment-2818 JR Mon, 30 Nov 2009 06:28:58 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=786#comment-2818 My wife suffered a major anxiety attack two years ago. It's been all downhill since then. She has developed many of the symptoms including sleeplessness, headaches, weight gain in the abdomen, brittle hair and her cycles are off and heavy. She won't admit to perimenopause, nor get it checked out. She's had thyroid issues and that could be complicating the symptoms. Every couple of months, she gets on a separation/divorce theme that scares the kids and me. She's often beligerent and gets upset very easily. She also has some MLC tendencies and may do something damaging to our relationship. If my kids were gone, I would take a long vacation from her and see if things improve. My wife suffered a major anxiety attack two years ago. It’s been all downhill since then. She has developed many of the symptoms including sleeplessness, headaches, weight gain in the abdomen, brittle hair and her cycles are off and heavy. She won’t admit to perimenopause, nor get it checked out. She’s had thyroid issues and that could be complicating the symptoms. Every couple of months, she gets on a separation/divorce theme that scares the kids and me. She’s often beligerent and gets upset very easily. She also has some MLC tendencies and may do something damaging to our relationship. If my kids were gone, I would take a long vacation from her and see if things improve.

]]> By: JA http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/08/10/help-me-through-her-menopause/#comment-2817 JA Thu, 05 Nov 2009 01:09:08 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=786#comment-2817 My wife started perimenopause last year and is a nutcase. I can't stand to be around her and would have been gone except that I stayed for the kids. I don't know how much more I can take and will try to stick it our until June. My wife started perimenopause last year and is a nutcase. I can’t stand to be around her and would have been gone except that I stayed for the kids. I don’t know how much more I can take and will try to stick it our until June.

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