http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/04/09/her-boyfriend-is-insecure/ Difficult Relationships - honest answers to relationship dilemmas Sun, 22 Jan 2012 11:30:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2008/04/09/her-boyfriend-is-insecure/#comment-2654 tobeme Thu, 10 Apr 2008 12:24:06 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=667#comment-2654 True, he is who he is. Change can happen, however it will be a lengthy process not an event and he must make the change because that is what he desires. Dangling the carrot of marriage in front of him will most likely only elicit a false change until the marriage happens and then he will revert to who he is. I believe it is important to talk with him about the changes desired, however in the end it must be his desire to change and he cannot be baited into it. True, he is who he is. Change can happen, however it will be a lengthy process not an event and he must make the change because that is what he desires. Dangling the carrot of marriage in front of him will most likely only elicit a false change until the marriage happens and then he will revert to who he is. I believe it is important to talk with him about the changes desired, however in the end it must be his desire to change and he cannot be baited into it.

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