Comments on: I left my husband for another man…

By: Karma

Karma — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 11:44:02 +0000

It’s call karma

By: woodechoon

woodechoon — Sat, 18 Jun 2011 20:36:09 +0000

I have to disagree, there is a big difference between being capable of something and actually doing it. You cant dismiss someones actions just because anyone could have done that action if so then there would be no laws. What this person did was hurt some one for her own lustful desire, that will always be wrong. Is she something of pure evil or does she deserve to be hated? certainly not. However she is a selfish person and some one of poor character she should be ashamed of herself and she should know that she has let down everyone that cares for her and disappointed the people who look up to her, she deserves too feel ashamed its the only responsible reaction one could have and remain moral. Lastly i find there is poetic justice to her story, she abandoned her family for a romantic interest, who in turned abandoned her, in all honesty she got her just reward, i find there is kharma of sorts in this universe and she got what was coming in full payment. To put it bluntly you reap what you sow.

By: James

James — Fri, 20 May 2011 20:04:30 +0000

My wife (Common Law) is doing the exact same crap… I went away for 5 days to attend my mothers funeral, then after the funeral was over, I called her looking for support.She told me that she no longer wanted to be with me. She
met someone on the internet while playing Call Of Duty and she believes there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it.
We have 2 beautiful children together whom she thinks will be fine because of her actions. I’ve been lied to, treated like crap and she continues to speak to this loser on her cell phone (which is new) and our home phone.. that idiot even calls our home phone.
Shaun.. I have to completely agree with you 100%.

By: ron

ron — Fri, 13 May 2011 00:13:42 +0000

my wife left me for a man she met on the internet. we have been married 11 years, she took my daughter and left my son with me. she went 1300 miles away from me and now lives with this man and he is still married. i found out this guy has a criminal record. i’m disabled, so i can’t go do anything to the guy… i’m afraid for my daughter, and even my wife.. i was disabled when we married, so she can’t say i’m different now…she emails me and calls me needing money, not for my daughter but for her expenses…i feel so dead inside…what can a guy do…?

By: Mitch

Mitch — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 10:00:59 +0000

I am sorry I have no sympathy for you. I am going through divorce at the moment because my wife of three years decided she wanted another man, I was devestated, nobody has hurt me more in my entire life. I am not perfect nobody is but I treated my wife very well and loved her with all my heart and she led me to believe the same. You are disloyal and broke a commitment you made to your husband and if he felt anything like I did when my future ex wife left me then you deserve any pain you get.
I can hear all those who have left their partners telling me I am just bitter and get over it, well yes I am bitter but so I should be I made a commitment for life not for three years, I gave the girl everything I had and she threw it back in my face, I would not put my worst enemy what she put me through so yes I am bitter. I have moved on I would never ever take this weak person back into my life, I will probaly always love her because unlike her I can’t just switch it off. I am not religious but my vows and morals mean the world to me and those of you who break their vows are weak and should be ashamed because you are terrible people.

By: John Sanunu

John Sanunu — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 18:11:25 +0000

My wife of almost 4 years left me for a man 13 years older than me, with two kids. We are 30. He was still married, albeit maybe separated. Both are disgusting. My wife for leaving me for financial security and this guy for filling up a vulnerable young woman’s head. My ex wife blamed me for everything, denied the affair. She became verbally abusive, blaming me for everyone. Anyone who cheats is empty and hollow. If the marriage is really unhealthy, or you are unhappy, you do everything you can do to save it. If after that effort, it still isn’t working, then get divorced. Marriages go through rough spots, but if people left everytime things got bad, no one would be married. My ex wife claims to have found true happiness with this scumbag, but we will see how happy she is taking care of two girls that aren’t hers, and dealing with an ex wife. Cheating is truly disgusting, and the people who cheat and lie about it are morally reprehensible.

By: Greg

Greg — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 06:09:29 +0000

my wife left me for a man she dated when she was fifteen i guess they where in love the children still stay with her i choose to exit like a gentleman still helping still dad it was really rough on me in the early days but it got better .for me my wife on the other hand is in a living hell she is really off balance and going thru hell this guy has no job and cheats on her she found out he left a woman who has a ten month old child and his other baby mother moved out of town without telling him where she was going my ex wife has lost her luster the last time i saw her she looked very stressed out shes up all night checking his phone and crying my daughters tell me she looks like a zombie under mind control her dream has turned into a nightmare life is funny i have become a better father and i am truly happy the kids and me enjoy life the last time i saw her i told her that i forgave her and she needs to forgive herself its hard to love someone who only likes you

By: FOAD

FOAD — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 08:21:47 +0000

Girl Scout, It is obvious you are a very selfish person. “So I let it slide hoping that after my mother’s passing, we could reconnect.” This is just sick! You don’t get it do you.. I feel so sorry for your husband. You could have never been a Girl Scout because you would have given away all the cookies for free. You are doing irreversible damage to your children but people like you will never see beyond your own selfish needs. You need to tell your husband who you really are and let him divorce you so he can find someone worthy of loving. The only thing I can say at this point is 50 going on 15.

By: Girl scout

Girl scout — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 07:11:40 +0000

I am a woman married 19 years with my husband and have been very unhappy, off and on, for a few years. We separated briefly twice briefly in our early years of marriage, then at 10 years we had twins. I was already in my 40s and he in his early 50s. Nine years later, zlthough we both love our daughters and try to be very present for them, our marriage is ense and difficult, where it takes very little for us to erupt into arguments. It is always about the lack of money and his insecure occupation, his inability to plan for the future which is part of his ADD for which he never sought treaqtment.

In the last few years I have cheated on a handful of occasions, one with an ex-boyfriend who I have known since college and is divorced with kids. The 1st time it was getting back at my spouse and less about the man, thougoh we are attracted to one another. I also had a flirtation with some heavy petting with another fellow I have known since my 20s, also divorced.

Right now I have been dealing with alot of sadness as my mother recently passed of cancer and I was responsible for her for the last few months of her life. She loved me and always made me feel secure despite my spourse’s insecure financial choices. Now that she is gone I feel scared and alone as my husband and I don’t communicate well (and we haven’t had sex in at least two years). I am well aware this is not healthy, and I feel that despite being in my 50s I want a good romantic life, sexual life and this is completely lacking in my marriage. It upsets me that while I try not to carry this into our home life, our children do undestand that Mommy and Daddy don’t get along. I want to do what is best for them, but staying in a failed marriage does not offer a good role for them. They see araguments, exasperation, anger, resentment, and certainly little affection.

A couple of years ago, I could have left my husband for one of the two other guys, but didn’t do it. My mother was going through cancer treatment and I concurrently lost my dad; and this fellow lives 1 hour away so it isn’t very easy to meet up with him. So I let it slide hoping that after my mother’s passing, we could reconnect.

Meanwhile, he has been seeing another woman, off and on over 2 years. Being married, I had no claim on him to not date other women, as I was not free from my marriage. Now, their relationship seems more tight and she has certainly not allowed me to visit with my friend without her chaperoning the socializing. Yesterday on my way home from out=of-town with my children, we stopped to see him and his children, and go out for pizza, and the girlfriend (age 58) was along, making sure I stayed at arms-length from him. This was excruciating for me as I have known him over 30 years and always had a solid friendship with him.

I know my feelingsare vulnerable, having recently lost a parent and another one in the last 3 years. And having a child with dyslexia/learning disabilities poses alot of challenges. Bottom line, I can’t stop thinking about this man and wanting him to dump the girlfriend for me, even though I have not left my husband (yet) for financial & childcare reason. I want to win this fellow back and have the relationship with him I now realize I should be having………….. friends, a powerful sexual conection, similar intellectual pursuits, an old friendship for 3 decades, same cultural and religious background, and a loving dad to his kids (and mine).

What to do? I know he is the man I should be with; only thing is, he is “comfortable” (not necessarily “in love with”) the other woman who lives nearby, is divorced (not married) and has older kids. Her circumstances are more “low maintenance” which is what he wants after a high-drama marriage.

I know this guy loves me but he told me (and his sister) that he does not want to break up my marriage but would rather I have connected with him being free. I can’t just bail from my spouse now as I left my career awhile back and I need to first have a sable job and ability to live closer to this man (which is another county & school district).

What, if anything, could/should I do to get this fellow back and wanting to be with me? He has told me before I that he loves me, that we belonged together, but now he is in a comfy, convenient relationship with a woman who is desperate to keep him (she is older than he and I and cultivates a “cuteness” that is not becoming at age 58; she is very territorial and has made it clear he can’t invite me WITH my children in his house (he and I have stayed platonic when the kids were about.)

I am terribly frustrated. Is it possible to find lasting love in leaving your spouse for someone else??? How to get him back?

By: LM

LM — Thu, 13 Jan 2011 10:57:14 +0000

LEE, you destroyed your marriage with your shallow cheating behavior. You admit you don’t deserve your husband. You got what you deserved, you were physically abused by your boyfriend. If you truly love your husband, let him go to be with someone who deserves him and will be faithful to him.