Comments on: Fixing a broken relationship http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/ Difficult Relationships - honest answers to relationship dilemmas Sun, 22 Jan 2012 11:30:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: kaybaybay1990 http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1987 kaybaybay1990 Wed, 22 Apr 2009 12:58:22 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1987 Well my ex boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over 2 years and we just had a baby back in january. I got a letter in the mail saying that we had to go to court for child support and if not Landon (my son) would lose his medical card! Plus Raymond (my ex) was not giving me the money that he promised me...Well i got awarded 220 dollars a month (not alot of money). He agreed to it and then when i got home he called me and said im not trying to be a pussy about this but IM DONE! But i dont get it because child support was going to be dropped theis summer before the end of june because we were talking about moving in together. He called me a few days ago and told me that the past few times that he had sex that it was not out of love and he felt no connection! I told him how i felt yesterday and i feel that he is realizing that he made a big mistake. All i want is to be with him and to be happy but i cant read his mind...its like he never knows how he feels. Well my ex boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over 2 years and we just had a baby back in january.

I got a letter in the mail saying that we had to go to court for child support and if not Landon (my son) would lose his medical card! Plus Raymond (my ex) was not giving me the money that he promised me…Well i got awarded 220 dollars a month (not alot of money). He agreed to it and then when i got home he called me and said im not trying to be a pussy about this but IM DONE!

But i dont get it because child support was going to be dropped theis summer before the end of june because we were talking about moving in together.

He called me a few days ago and told me that the past few times that he had sex that it was not out of love and he felt no connection! I told him how i felt yesterday and i feel that he is realizing that he made a big mistake.

All i want is to be with him and to be happy but i cant read his mind…its like he never knows how he feels.

]]> By: sobha http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1986 sobha Fri, 27 Feb 2009 09:21:37 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1986 Am a married woman.. Last year I was in love with divorced man...He loved me a lot...we are like husband and wife... but sudden everything is changed ..my husband came from US and my lover become angry to me...Now he is never sending a love letter or anything but he is sending money to me... He never called me, never send sms never come for chat...Am totally upset..I want my beloved...what to do? Am in apathetic situation...I love him more than anybody in this world. He loves me so much... I know still he loves me..but he is acting angry ...How can he show these type of actions? Please give me a reply..I'm totally upset with the situation. Am a married woman.. Last year I was in love with divorced man…He loved me a lot…we are like husband and wife… but sudden everything is changed ..my husband came from US and my lover become angry to me…Now he is never sending a love letter or anything but he is sending money to me… He never called me, never send sms never come for chat…Am totally upset..I want my beloved…what to do? Am in apathetic situation…I love him more than anybody in this world. He loves me so much… I know still he loves me..but he is acting angry …How can he show these type of actions? Please give me a reply..I’m totally upset with the situation.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1985 Anonymous Fri, 20 Feb 2009 02:54:09 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1985 Me and my girlfriend have been dating for little over a year. Her ex was a total unkind to her, and mine only was using me. We had an affair for a few months before we both went out officially, Everything was great. Just being around her. I felt so powerful. Like no matter what, I had her in my corner. Unfortunately, things seemed to go south after January rolled around. We kept fighting, I had started to get mad at her about little things. I pushed her to her emotional limit and she didn't want to continue the relationship. Thing is, she is still in love with me, and I am with her. I'm hoping this is only a short hiatus. I feel like poorly for the way I argued and treated her. I just want to make amends and let her know that I still love her, maybe even more so than before. I don't want to rush her though. I'm not sure what to do. We're both still in love, but I have to show her that the constant fighting will stop. (Edited by Rod of unacceptable language) Me and my girlfriend have been dating for little over a year. Her ex was a total unkind to her, and mine only was using me. We had an affair for a few months before we both went out officially, Everything was great. Just being around her. I felt so powerful. Like no matter what, I had her in my corner. Unfortunately, things seemed to go south after January rolled around. We kept fighting, I had started to get mad at her about little things. I pushed her to her emotional limit and she didn’t want to continue the relationship. Thing is, she is still in love with me, and I am with her. I’m hoping this is only a short hiatus. I feel like poorly for the way I argued and treated her. I just want to make amends and let her know that I still love her, maybe even more so than before. I don’t want to rush her though. I’m not sure what to do. We’re both still in love, but I have to show her that the constant fighting will stop. (Edited by Rod of unacceptable language)

]]> By: Jamie Scrase http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1984 Jamie Scrase Thu, 18 Dec 2008 21:36:12 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1984 Hi there im 16 years of ages yes i get it 16 years of age and he thinks he is in love well anyway. i had fell in love with this girlthe relationship started slow but with alot of rumous around everywhere about eachother, I met he about 1 year ago at a friends house and ever since i laid eyes on her i knew she was the one for me a few months later she asked me out and i said yes. So we started going out with eachother it got to about 6 months of the relationship that we started going on holiday with eachother, Then 7 and a half months into the relationship i was talk to some girl on this msn fingy and it got a bit personal i ended the convosation because i didnt want it to effect our relationship so days went and weeks went then me and my fiance yes we got engaged at 6 and half months. But anyway we went on holiday again to this butlins resort the first day was fine the the second came along then she was avoiding me i asked her what was wrong she always said nothing is wrong so i trusted her on that the we went back home after 5 days of being there, She seemed different but i fort nothing of it so we caried on as usual i was working she was to we only got to see eachother on the weekends even then i was working on the saturday she asked me about the convosation on msn i just just feel to the ground crying because i knew it was the beginening of the end of our relationship i didnt say that i didnt do anything, i knew what i did wrong i said i was sorry many many times and she said dont worry about it but i was worried about it. Then a few weeks later she went to visit her sister on a friday and i was msn that night and she came online i was talking to her the she said the words that nearly killed me. ("ITS OVER") And that was 1 month ago ever since ive been trying to get back with her but then i found out she has got a new boyfriend that is 6 years older than her she is 17 and he is 23 i said tio her about this you know have you got a new boyfriend she said yes his name is ant and he is 23 years old and i love him. the next week i had a phone call on my way to work she said can i have those baby clothes of mine at yours i knew what she was saying she is either pregnant or trying for a baby at the age of 17 with a 23 year old she has known for 3 weeks.With knowing all this my body has crashed down i havent eaten which has made me lose 3.5 stone in wieght always crying and what not. I keep on asking her what can i do to get your trust back and she says i dont know, but the hardest thing is she looks me in the eyes and says she still loves me. I Dont know what to do anymore my family and friends say get rid of her but i say i cant she is always in my heart i always think about her in dreams, Nightmares, At work all the time..... Someone please help me with this i want to get back with her but i dont know what to do ive tried everything post here or my email- jamiescrase@hotmaill.com thanks jamie xx Hi there im 16 years of ages yes i get it 16 years of age and he thinks he is in love well anyway. i had fell in love with this girlthe relationship started slow but with alot of rumous around everywhere about eachother, I met he about 1 year ago at a friends house and ever since i laid eyes on her i knew she was the one for me a few months later she asked me out and i said yes. So we started going out with eachother it got to about 6 months of the relationship that we started going on holiday with eachother, Then 7 and a half months into the relationship i was talk to some girl on this msn fingy and it got a bit personal i ended the convosation because i didnt want it to effect our relationship so days went and weeks went then me and my fiance yes we got engaged at 6 and half months. But anyway we went on holiday again to this butlins resort the first day was fine the the second came along then she was avoiding me i asked her what was wrong she always said nothing is wrong so i trusted her on that the we went back home after 5 days of being there, She seemed different but i fort nothing of it so we caried on as usual i was working she was to we only got to see eachother on the weekends even then i was working on the saturday she asked me about the convosation on msn i just just feel to the ground crying because i knew it was the beginening of the end of our relationship i didnt say that i didnt do anything, i knew what i did wrong i said i was sorry many many times and she said dont worry about it but i was worried about it. Then a few weeks later she went to visit her sister on a friday and i was msn that night and she came online i was talking to her the she said the words that nearly killed me. (“ITS OVER”) And that was 1 month ago ever since ive been trying to get back with her but then i found out she has got a new boyfriend that is 6 years older than her she is 17 and he is 23 i said tio her about this you know have you got a new boyfriend she said yes his name is ant and he is 23 years old and i love him. the next week i had a phone call on my way to work she said can i have those baby clothes of mine at yours i knew what she was saying she is either pregnant or trying for a baby at the age of 17 with a 23 year old she has known for 3 weeks.With knowing all this my body has crashed down i havent eaten which has made me lose 3.5 stone in wieght always crying and what not. I keep on asking her what can i do to get your trust back and she says i dont know, but the hardest thing is she looks me in the eyes and says she still loves me. I Dont know what to do anymore my family and friends say get rid of her but i say i cant she is always in my heart i always think about her in dreams, Nightmares, At work all the time…..

Someone please help me with this i want to get back with her but i dont know what to do ive tried everything post here or my email- jamiescrase@hotmaill.com thanks jamie xx

]]> By: Cody http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1983 Cody Fri, 05 Dec 2008 21:09:35 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1983 Also, at this point i'm actually starting to believe that were both still together because were afraid to be alone, and because the people we hang around with are 2 or 3 years younger than us and look to us for advice and help. I kind of wonder if i should just break it off with her, but i always decide thats its better to keep truing because i believe that i i don't want to break up then i must still have feelings for her enough that theres something i can salvage from all this and maybe rekindle the sparks in our hearts that were once roaring flames. I just don't want to loose her, and make everything ive gone through and lost in her name to be for nothing. Ive always been called a hopeless romantic but recently the hopeless part is starting to ring true in my head. Also, at this point i’m actually starting to believe that were both still together because were afraid to be alone, and because the people we hang around with are 2 or 3 years younger than us and look to us for advice and help. I kind of wonder if i should just break it off with her, but i always decide thats its better to keep truing because i believe that i i don’t want to break up then i must still have feelings for her enough that theres something i can salvage from all this and maybe rekindle the sparks in our hearts that were once roaring flames.
I just don’t want to loose her, and make everything ive gone through and lost in her name to be for nothing. Ive always been called a hopeless romantic but recently the hopeless part is starting to ring true in my head.

]]> By: Cody http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1982 Cody Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:50:55 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1982 I am 17, turning 18 in January, and my girlfriend is 18. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about a year and a half. We met because we were both in theater. At the time i was in a bad relationship where the girl i was dating had cheated on me and admitted it to me, it hurt because the girlfriend before that had cheated on me and left me....for another girl. I knew my relationship was breaking apart so i decided to begin a relationship with the girl im with now. Eventually she found out about me and my girlfriend and we broke up...horribly. But my girlfriend stayed with me. We have had so many moments together, and we became engaged a few months ago. I love her but recently we have been fighting over the smallest things. She does theater in college but when i want to go join theater groups she wont let me because she says it would keep us from spending time together...were teens and we practically living together, she only goes home to sleep, and even then only on week days. We are young and i understand that, but i lover her and she claims to be unable to live without me...she has had a suicidal past and i dont want to do anything to possibly push her over that edge. We rarely cuddle anymore and our sex life has gone down to about one night a week for only 2 hours. When we first met we had sex every single day for 3 months for about 3 hours a day on average. Obviously it has gone down a lot, it almost makes me think that im not enough for her anymore and i start to feel like she may cheat on me. I have begun talking to my ex again too, she lives in lancing Michigan and i live near Detroit (we were seeing each other on weekends when we were going out, we always had a long distance relationship). I have no intention ig going back to her because of what happened when we finally broke up for good....bad drama, but talking to her makes me remember how much more romantic my relationship was with her. and it makes me wonder even more if i should just give up on the relationship im in. And i really dont want to. I cant explain how sorry i am for cheating on my ex, or how sorry i am that the fact that i cheated on my ex with my current girlfriend made my current girlfriend unable to trust me from the start. I have been a horrible bf in the past so i tried to do everything i could to keep this one from failing, but im starting to believe that in truly unable to be a good bf and lover to anyone. there is not enough room on this forum to explain how bad our relationship has become.....but its BAD! I need advice on how to fix a broken relationship with a girl who i plan to make my wife, who i love more than anything, who is way overly clingy, and who's trust i no longer have. I allow myself to be whipped by her (i do everything she asks and i never do anything for my own fun, its all about her and i allow it in hopes she will love me more.). Any advice? I am 17, turning 18 in January, and my girlfriend is 18. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about a year and a half. We met because we were both in theater. At the time i was in a bad relationship where the girl i was dating had cheated on me and admitted it to me, it hurt because the girlfriend before that had cheated on me and left me….for another girl. I knew my relationship was breaking apart so i decided to begin a relationship with the girl im with now. Eventually she found out about me and my girlfriend and we broke up…horribly. But my girlfriend stayed with me. We have had so many moments together, and we became engaged a few months ago. I love her but recently we have been fighting over the smallest things. She does theater in college but when i want to go join theater groups she wont let me because she says it would keep us from spending time together…were teens and we practically living together, she only goes home to sleep, and even then only on week days.
We are young and i understand that, but i lover her and she claims to be unable to live without me…she has had a suicidal past and i dont want to do anything to possibly push her over that edge. We rarely cuddle anymore and our sex life has gone down to about one night a week for only 2 hours. When we first met we had sex every single day for 3 months for about 3 hours a day on average. Obviously it has gone down a lot, it almost makes me think that im not enough for her anymore and i start to feel like she may cheat on me.
I have begun talking to my ex again too, she lives in lancing Michigan and i live near Detroit (we were seeing each other on weekends when we were going out, we always had a long distance relationship). I have no intention ig going back to her because of what happened when we finally broke up for good….bad drama, but talking to her makes me remember how much more romantic my relationship was with her. and it makes me wonder even more if i should just give up on the relationship im in. And i really dont want to.
I cant explain how sorry i am for cheating on my ex, or how sorry i am that the fact that i cheated on my ex with my current girlfriend made my current girlfriend unable to trust me from the start. I have been a horrible bf in the past so i tried to do everything i could to keep this one from failing, but im starting to believe that in truly unable to be a good bf and lover to anyone.
there is not enough room on this forum to explain how bad our relationship has become…..but its BAD!
I need advice on how to fix a broken relationship with a girl who i plan to make my wife, who i love more than anything, who is way overly clingy, and who’s trust i no longer have. I allow myself to be whipped by her (i do everything she asks and i never do anything for my own fun, its all about her and i allow it in hopes she will love me more.). Any advice?

]]> By: Rod E. Smith, MSMFT http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1981 Rod E. Smith, MSMFT Mon, 01 Dec 2008 04:38:47 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1981 call through the link at the end of the post call through the link at the end of the post

]]> By: Rod E. Smith, MSMFT http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1980 Rod E. Smith, MSMFT Mon, 01 Dec 2008 04:37:16 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1980 yes..... when would you like to talk. yes….. when would you like to talk.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1979 Anonymous Mon, 01 Dec 2008 04:14:35 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1979 Is there someone to talk to. Is there someone to talk to.

]]> By: sarah lane http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1978 sarah lane Mon, 24 Nov 2008 18:00:13 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/2007/05/08/fixing-a-broken-relationship/#comment-1978 me and my girlfrind have been going out for a year and a half. i fell in love with her a long time befor that, but now i just dont fell the same.its like i wont to brake up with her but than at the same time i dont know what to do without her, she is the love of my life.but i can't stand her she always is blaming me for things i have nothing to do with and it fells like she dont love me at all she wont even kiss me the same. i dont know what to do....... me and my girlfrind have been going out for a year and a half. i fell in love with her a long time befor that, but now i just dont fell the same.its like i wont to brake up with her but than at the same time i dont know what to do without her, she is the love of my life.but i can’t stand her she always is blaming me for things i have nothing to do with and it fells like she dont love me at all she wont even kiss me the same. i dont know what to do…….

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