Comments on: Are you an adult? It has very little to do with your age http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2006/03/11/adulthood-and-maturity/ Difficult Relationships - honest answers to relationship dilemmas Sun, 22 Jan 2012 11:30:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kalin Lewis http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2006/03/11/adulthood-and-maturity/#comment-237 Kalin Lewis Mon, 22 Oct 2007 00:31:27 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/03/11/adulthood-and-maturity/#comment-237 PS. I don't beleive he is an adult. I believe we have a parent/child relationship and believe me, there is nothing sexy about that! PS. I don’t beleive he is an adult. I believe we have a parent/child relationship and believe me, there is nothing sexy about that!

]]> By: Kalin Lewis http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2006/03/11/adulthood-and-maturity/#comment-236 Kalin Lewis Mon, 22 Oct 2007 00:30:44 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/03/11/adulthood-and-maturity/#comment-236 I am trying to find a way to post so I can get some help. I have been married for 31 years. My husband told me the night before we married (I was 18) that he was doing drugs and would never stop. I married him the next day anyway. I feel like I was trapped at this point, even though I realize I could have said "STOP THE WEDDING" I wasn't able to do that. We had a difficult marriage. There was alot of sexual manipulation. He was not willing to resolve conflict but still insisted that we should have sex. If I wasn't interested, the anger, the temper tantrums, the attempt to make me..then the next morning, he acts like nothing is wrong and nothing happened. This goes on for years..and years..and in my desire to "submit to my husband" I would "give in" in spite of unresolved conflict or feeling like he was always trying to buy me. He buys friends, he gives them things, he DOES things for me, cleaning, etc and then EXPECTS and when he does not get..he was angry and had a temper tantrum. My anxiety grew. I learned to stay on the computer at night to limit being approached. I resented him deeply. We separated for the first time in our marriage in 2005 and then he suddenly became very ill and I had to go from being angry with him, to taking care of him. He lost a leg due to an infection and almost lost his life. He is in a wheelchair now, very overweight, self focused, whiney and wonders why I am not attracted to him. We have just separated into a duplex..because of financial needs, but I feel it might help me..only now, he is angry again that I'm not interested in a sexual relationship, but I feel deep commitment to help him in his illness, etc. I try to get him to "get a life" go do things he likes, see other people..He wants ME to make him happy and I can not take any more of this kind of pressure. I am full of resentment and anger and yes, unforgiveness...WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE... I am trying to find a way to post so I can get some help. I have been married for 31 years. My husband told me the night before we married (I was 18) that he was doing drugs and would never stop. I married him the next day anyway. I feel like I was trapped at this point, even though I realize I could have said “STOP THE WEDDING” I wasn’t able to do that. We had a difficult marriage. There was alot of sexual manipulation. He was not willing to resolve conflict but still insisted that we should have sex. If I wasn’t interested, the anger, the temper tantrums, the attempt to make me..then the next morning, he acts like nothing is wrong and nothing happened. This goes on for years..and years..and in my desire to “submit to my husband” I would “give in” in spite of unresolved conflict or feeling like he was always trying to buy me. He buys friends, he gives them things, he DOES things for me, cleaning, etc and then EXPECTS and when he does not get..he was angry and had a temper tantrum. My anxiety grew. I learned to stay on the computer at night to limit being approached. I resented him deeply. We separated for the first time in our marriage in 2005 and then he suddenly became very ill and I had to go from being angry with him, to taking care of him. He lost a leg due to an infection and almost lost his life. He is in a wheelchair now, very overweight, self focused, whiney and wonders why I am not attracted to him. We have just separated into a duplex..because of financial needs, but I feel it might help me..only now, he is angry again that I’m not interested in a sexual relationship, but I feel deep commitment to help him in his illness, etc. I try to get him to “get a life” go do things he likes, see other people..He wants ME to make him happy and I can not take any more of this kind of pressure. I am full of resentment and anger and yes, unforgiveness…WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE…

]]> By: Rod E. Smith, MSMFT http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2006/03/11/adulthood-and-maturity/#comment-235 Rod E. Smith, MSMFT Mon, 26 Jun 2006 02:12:29 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/03/11/adulthood-and-maturity/#comment-235 thanks, Shaladeda --- you are very accurate ---- grace alone, Rod thanks, Shaladeda — you are very accurate —- grace alone, Rod

]]> By: Shaladeda http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2006/03/11/adulthood-and-maturity/#comment-234 Shaladeda Mon, 26 Jun 2006 02:00:54 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/03/11/adulthood-and-maturity/#comment-234 As I read your page, I felt your humbleness, continue to stand on the rock, the Lord is everything, with him we are everything and can do all things, may God continue to place his blessing upon you. Your covered under Scarlet. K As I read your page, I felt your humbleness, continue to stand on the rock, the Lord is everything, with him we are everything and can do all things, may God continue to place his blessing upon you.

Your covered under Scarlet.

K

]]> By: Hobie http://www.difficultrelationships.com/2006/03/11/adulthood-and-maturity/#comment-233 Hobie Thu, 04 May 2006 13:56:39 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/03/11/adulthood-and-maturity/#comment-233 What do you mean by #6? Victimize? What do you mean by #6? Victimize?

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